So let’s talk about where you can save time and money, and where some splurging is going to make your life way easier.
1. Save money on cute outfits
I’m not saying don’t get any. We all want to stare at that cute little outfit daydreaming about our little one. But you don’t need 5 adorable but impractical outfits. Get 1-2 and cherish them. For the rest, borrow newborn clothes from friends, ask for hand-me-downs or stock up on soft, sturdy, staples like footie pajamas (they can be worn all day!).
2. Splurge on time for preparation
I’m not talking about preparing the nursery, I’m talking about preparing yourself, your relationship and your life for this huge transition.
First-time mommas, trust me on this one!! And if you don’t, don’t say no one told you! I’m telling you right now-- YOU and your partner, not just your home, need education and preparation for a new baby.
Second-time mommas, you know how important this is for you!
In order to prepare for your baby in a meaningful way, we first need to know what is important to you, what kind of mom you want to be, and what kind of postpartum experience you dream of. To get clear on how to prepare for your ideal postpartum take this quiz.
I cherished the time I spent getting my daughter’s nursery ready. So I’m not saying don’t spend any time, I’m saying please, please do not stress the details of the nursery decor. It isn’t worth that one photo for Instagram. It was 2 years before my daughter even noticed the canopy I handmade for her!
4. Splurge money on car seat
Car accidents are far too common to go cheap on this one!
5. Save money on shoes for baby
Shoes are cute. Newborns don’t need them.
6. Splurge money on postpartum services
Lactation consultations, meal delivery, postpartum doula, house cleaning services...anything to make your life easier once baby arrives!
7. Save money on nursery
Did I mention it was 2 years before my daughter noticed her handmade canopy?
8. Splurge time on connection
Nothing feels as good as being in the company of those you love. Spend time with friends laughing until it hurts. Go on romantic dates with your partner. Love up on all the important people in your life.
Babies need a lot of attention after they arrive, so it may be a while before you can connect, uninterrupted, with your loved ones.
9. Save time folding and hanging baby’s clothes perfectly
I think this one is self-explanatory...sorry, Marie Kondo.
10. Splurge money on classes/therapy and the things that really prepare you
If you want the simplest, most straightforward path to a restful, loving and supported postpartum, then you will want to enroll in Prepared Postpartum.
It’s an online course, taught by myself, an ObGyn, and Dr. Cassidy, a marriage and family therapist. Enrollment is only open January 15th-28th 2020 (it will open later in 2020 but we aren’t sure when). You can get on the waitlist here.
Thriving with a new baby isn’t about having the right baby gear, though I wish it was that easy. Being an amazing mom is about being an amazing you! Preparing yourself is the most important ingredient.